searching

writing to figure something out

expecting to get value out of something you dragged forward into the future

like Abe keeping all the furniture from denver and then dealing with it now

am I doing that? with my sister?

no, her self-concept died, so did mine, and I’ve fully processed the childhood/parent stuff that had me holding her at arm’s length

which means the remaining trauma under my roof is … is what? where? Abe feels it, and I think that means he carries it, but he is good at moving on… so what is it? where is it hiding, and how can we let it move out and on?

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reframe:

waiting to get value out of something you carried forward into the future

like Abe keeping all the furniture from denver until he was ready to work with it

am I doing that? with my sister?

yeah, totally. I did the minimum-attachment thing, like Abe paying denver storage fees (imagine that I was traumatized by keeping the furniture - that would have been grating on me like the $1k/mo has been on Abe)

and now I’m ready to get value from what I carried forward, like Abe’s ready to get value from his Denver stuff? it’s all under our roof at once